Surviving, Not Thriving in High School

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BY ANONYMOUS, College, USA, Freshman

I always thought I was happy in high school, but after graduating and being in college, I realized that I was not happy there; instead I survived thinking that “just ok” meant I was happy. I was not depressed ; I wasn’t often sad, but I never was that happy. I can can easily see why some are very depressed, on the verge of hurting themselves .

Our community suffered the loss of too many students over the last year from suicide. Although I did not personally know any of them, I believe the root of the problem of mental health issues is in the culture of many wealthy towns, including ours. From early childhood, our community lead me to believe that success is defined by how well I do in classes, or what college I go to, but in reality, I believe success is defined by well being and happiness.

I believed for a long time that a big problem with my high school is the lack of family and the lack of how united the students are. There are very little events that people attend; even sporting events aren’t very well attended. People are so concerned about grades and getting into a good college that they skip community events.

There are many very nice people, however they do not often put in the extra effort to help others that they do not know, and there are cliques. People rarely get to interact with people other than their friends. When they are in school, they are either in class, or in their comfort zone with their friends.

If you do not fall into one of those cliques, you can feel very alone with no one to talk to emotionally.

My high school has always and will always be a school with very high academic standards, however I believe the administration could change certain things about the school that will bring people closer together, without affecting the academic success of the students.

One idea I have for the school would be school events that are required to attend, either before or after school. There could be a required amount of events you must go to before graduation. I believe this would be a huge step in bringing people closer together. These events could be social gatherings,community service or sporting events; something everyone could be interested in attending.

Also, there are many ideas floating around for reducing stress at for students. I believe that teaching styles could be focused more on effort and participation, and putting the work in school rather than outside of school. People who are depressed have more problems than school, but when you go a place for 7 hours every day, it can have a huge impact on your life and your happiness, especially when you get home and do more homework.

I always thought I was happy in high school, but after graduating and being in college, I realized that I was not happy there; instead I survived. I believed that being “just ok” in high school meant I was happy. I was not depressed during high school, I wasn’t often sad, but I never was that happy. I can can easily see why some are depressed and on the verge of major depression or worse.

 

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